LIVING THE REALITY

MARRIAGE 
It is NOT an achievement but an institution which needs a good and solid foundation to build it upwards. Not only does it need a correct way of communication and mutual trust, it needs to be financed wisely! 
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MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE 
It is NOT a permit which allows anyone bound to act as s/he wishes as it is the fact that you have another heart to care for besides yours. It is not a warranty or guaranteed to be forever ever after. It is just something to show others and the world its legalisation of two humans in a relationship which many couples have misinterpreted it to be as some kind of ownership but the truth is that no one owns no one with this certification.
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MARRIED 
It is NOT an entitlement for couple to act irresponsible by pushing everything to one party. Both humans are meant to bear all responsibilities and consequences towards their act of intimacy, love, trust and products of their actions i.e. children.
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SOULMATE 
S/he is NOT an asset as no one is guaranteed will stay alive and living together forever in this world. Some left after years being the soulmate. Humans tend to change over the years which is a norm but of course, if move on is an act can hurt many parties with great disappointments, it is irresponsibly unfair and unjustice. But there's no proven fairness and justice as long as in the hand of humans. When there is left and right, there are going to be some  innocent humans getting hurt by some imperfect humans who are born to make mistakes! So much of a soulmate after honeymoon! What to do next? Move on and make yourself happy with whatever and whoever you still have in life!
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CHILDREN 
They are NOT some investments which you both pinned high hopes that one day it will mature and disburse appropriately. They are born without any written vow or promise to keep that once both parents are old, it is mandatory to them, the children to care for the parents. Caring for parents are only humanity act out of love by the children if they choose to care for their parents. Many parents misinterpreted this fact and when the children do not care for their aging parents, they are insolent..ungrateful..just children from hell which indeed unfair to the children! Parents can hope but cannot demand parental caregiving from their children. That is the reality of bringing children into this world! If you said that you gained happiness just by having children and don't expect any returns, that is your greatest blessing from God. Cherish it! Don't be sad, angry and disappointed when your children not even calling you up just to say "Hi" to you because it is NOT mandatory to them to do so! You pray for the best life for yourself and your children. No need to curse your children for their shortcomings. No need to blame yourself. You just do your best, be the best and leave the rest to God. Aameen!
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SINGLE 
It is NOT an OPTION even though you can choose to be SINGLE or NOT! However, most of the time, you CANNOT choose as being SINGLE is for you to be in forever whether you like it or not! SINGLE is a term to cherish whilst it last! Not many humans are able to stay SINGLE forever. To stay SINGLE forever takes a lot of COURAGE, BRAVENESS and STRENGTHS. There will be MANY gossips, talking, debating, name-calling, labelling, badmouthing, sarcasm, judging and assumptions about being SINGLE. It will hurt at the beginning but as times gone by, your feelings will be numb as your body, your mindset and your perceptions start adapting to the concept of being a SINGLE! Then, as peace resides in your SINGLE life, you will find that being SINGLE is NOT a BAD idea! You will start to learn to be a HAPPIEST SINGLE on earth that no word or no statement will be affecting you emotionally and spiritually! You live as a fulfilled SINGLE who walks the path alone with God's guidance. Other humans who stare and sneer instead of cheering you are just some "poorest ungrateful tenants renting free" in a tiny part of your life-story who are not your priorities even and you can kick them out at any time - that is all! Aameen..


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